Have you been trying and everything seems impossible, most things arent impossible, most people just quit too soon.

The basic reason why people don’t get what they want is because they give up too soon, not realizing that what is required of them to get to their destination is just A STEP AHEAD. Only if you could take one more step.

You didn’t get the first job you wanted – so you quit.

The first business you started working on failed – so you quit.

The first time you went out for a run, you puked – so you quit.

The first time you sent a proposal, you got turned down – so you quit.

It could be anything, but chances are whatever it is, it boiled down to this: you didn’t get what you wanted right away so you quit. You called it in. You packed packed your bag headed home.

Some people have even resorted to believing that whatever they find challenging is not meant for them, they often interchange struggle for chalenges meanwhile they are not interchangeable. There is a difference between challenges and struggle. Challenges are promotional exams you must take in order to move to the next level in life. No matter how sound you are academically, you still need to take exams with the other average students in class for you to move to the next class and exams dont come easy. Struggle on the other hand can be refered to as something that you are not cut out for.

Challenge is not an excuse for giving up your dreams. Tell me the great men you adore so much and i'll tell you the challenges they faced to get there. What if Steve jobs had given up, you wouldnt have the apple products you have today, if Mark Zuckerbag had given up, you wouldnt have the facebook you are obsessed with. Imagine if i had given up, I woudnt have been addressing you and thousands of others through this medium now.

Now to the question, why do many people quit so easily?

I will be sharing with you top few reasons why loosers quit so easily. people quit so easily – and more importantly, key ways of getting around this:-


  • ”You Can’t Do It!”

At some point someone told you that. And you believed them… Next time you hear those words, recall all those who heard the same words many times – but have succeeded against all odds. Read the biographies of Muhamadu Buhari, Steve Jobs and of course mine. We all have proved that discouraging words have no power.


  • You Lack Self-Confidence

Many big and positive changes need self-belief. .  Any self-doubts about your capability to succeed will make you want to give up. There is a simple tip I usually use, when my self-confidence needs a boost. I calm down and get centered. Then I take a piece of paper and list all my skills, knowledge, experiences and other assets.


  • You Lack Focus

There are so many distractions these days to stop you from focussing on the key things! Every time you decide to write something you have Twitter, Facebook and e mail notifications stealing your attention. Every time you decide to spend time on work, you have your friends calling for a hang out. Not keeping the focus on your goals leads to ineffective efforts – this ultimately makes you disappointed and inclined to give up. Next time you need to stay focused, switch off your TV, log off social media sites and blogs and turn off your smartphone. Instead, create time. Imagine you are on a very important business meeting at the office and you simply cannot be available to anyone before the meeting is over. The meeting will only be over when you have completed what you were supposed to do!


  • You Don’t See Immediate Results

Everyone wants it all and wants it now. But anything worthwhile creating takes times, and each fruit need time to ripe. Simply remember that the more you work towards your goals, the sooner you will reach them. So keep going – just remember to climb the summit again and again.


  • You Lack Motivation, Enthusiasm and Inspiration

When you first began your project/changes/initiative you were probably full of enthusiasm, you felt motivated and encouraged. Then things started slowing down, you realized that it wasn’t that easy and the enthusiasm started cooling down, the inspiration burning down and you just let things go. Just go back to the beginning and remember your initial thoughts and ideas. Recall what was motivating and inspiring you about the project and concentrate on those aspects. Follow your intuition to get inspired again.


  • It’s Not your Dream!

Maybe your initial idea was just a temporary wish, which at some point you realized was not worth the time, the effort and the sacrifices. Periodically evaluate your dreams and make sure that they are still valid. If they are no longer valid, then you have not given up. You have simply realized that you were headed in the wrong direction. If need be, redefine what success means to you. Revisit your ideas and get back on track with what truly excites you. Remember – you were born to win!


  • You Miss your Comfort Zone

Before you got involved in this project, even if things may not have been perfect, you were used to them. It was predictable, comfortable and easy. And now in this stage of uncertainty and struggle, you miss your comfort zone. Next time you have the temptation to turn back and return to your comfort zone, simply remember that once you have reached where you want to be, you will create a new comfort zone for you – and then keeping going onwards and upwards.


  • People Think it’s a Stupid Idea!

They think you are too old to start something new, they think that following your dream concept is not realistic, and they think it’s not serious and you should stop being childish. What people think is not your business – It is better to anticipate what they will think when you will get there!


  • Fear of the unknown

so you've tried it before or you have someone who had and you are scared it might fail again. Well, i have a good news for you, you can do it again. even when you fall down, pick yourself up, clean your body and keep moving. It might be difficult to do but always remember that if you did not pick up yourself while you were trying to take your first walk as a toddler, you will never be walking today. Behave like a baby and start walking again. 


Everyone likes the easy way out and giving up is the easiest thing you can do. No more effort and time is required. So you just give up and the problems related to that go away. So what do you do instead?

Next time you start something, please don’t listen to the negative feedback of people around you – instead talk to all those who encourage you and are interested in you succeeding.

Be confident and believe in yourself, because you can do it!

Giving up is for losers – and since you are reading this article, you are clearly not a loser! Next time you start something, make sure you really want it bad enough. Make sure it’s your dream and your passion.

If it is – then your motivation, enthusiasm and inspiration will stay with you along the way.

If it is – then you will be patient enough and will not be discouraged by the lack of immediate results.

And if your passion is strong enough, you will never ever look for the easy way out!

I leave you with this japanese proverb which says “Fall down seven times. Get up eight.”


Uche Ahubelem